I didn’t understand…

She did everything you possibly could to beat cancer - and yet she didn’t make it.

I was so perplexed when I got the news from my friend a few months back that his wife had passed away.

Last week, I got more response to my newsletter than any edition I have ever published. It was a little shocking to be honest. Below is one that jumped out to me:

I’m always a fan of the anecdotal stories and the corresponding science to validate ideas or claims - if they exist. I was also shocked to not be able to find any solid evidence based science to show a link between emotional baggage/pain/trauma and cancer.

Here’s why I was shocked

I remember my dad’s journey being told he had tumors on his adrenal glands and his belief that an MD challenging him to go forgive anyone and everyone that had wronged him in life - was the key that led to those tumors disappearing.

I had some conversations in the last few weeks with two friends - both husbands who lost their wives to cancer. One wife was late 40s, the other was in her late 60s.

As I asked them both about the battle they saw their wives had with cancer, they both shared their stories of exploring conventional treatments, natural treatments and their combination thereof - and both gave me a similar answer when I asked:

What would you do today if you had cancer?

Without hesitation they both in different ways said “ I believe my wife had unresolved emotional trauma - she held on to resentment toward her parents.” They BOTH said this to me. Two different men, living in different parts of the world - both of these men Doctors by the way - no shortage of knowledge, no shortage of means! They both said:

“My wife had unresolved anger and resentment and I think it prevented her from healing”.

You and I can agree or disagree with their opinions - but I find the sentiments fascinating.

Lack of Evidence

As much as I would love to share some studies to ‘prove’ that emotional pain and trauma cause cancer or by healing the pain/trauma you can heal cancer - I find no evidence. I can find some that claims to disprove the idea - but nothing to confirm it.

So what do we do with lack of evidence?

Well it should give us pause to reflect. There are some studies researching the connection between having Adverse Childhood Experiences - i.e. Trauma before you are 18 - to see if there is a correlation to adult chronic diseases like cancer and more.

Bottom line - I have only seen good come from friends and family address their emotional pain and trauma - head on.

I was reminded recently of the words of Kobe Bryant before his tragic helicopter accident: i.e. don’t take life for granted!

Here’s my challenge for you:

Take 5 minutes - if there is any unresolved tension in any relationships in your life - address them - make amends, make peace, its not worth suffering in ways you may not be clear on yet.

If nothing else - Do it for selfish reasons - to enjoy better health.

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I’d love to hear your thoughts. 👋

I write this newsletter each week because I feel my best when my body, mind and soul are all healthy. I want the same for you. If you feel like you’ve seen something valuable here, please do me a favor and forward this newsletter to a friend or let me know what you think by replying or texting me - (310) 879-8441

I think happy couples make the world go round. I also believe men can do more to lead and love in their lives. In light of that, I have found the following four books to be the 4 books every man should read and every woman should want their man to read.

• Good Energy - What makes for a Healthy Body and Mind?

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-Jared

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